Because, you know, I actually hadn't been having a fab few days...
Just a few short hours before I hit the 'publish' button on that post I was having a 20 minute stand off, 50 yards from the school gates, with a 3 year old who wanted to ride his balance bike without wearing his helmet. It got to the point where I thought we'd never get home - I simply can't carry 2 lunch boxes, 2 book bags, a bike and and a 17kg child the 2/3 of a mile home whilst also supervising another child on a bike. #2 is getting so big I can hardly see over his head when I pick him up and last time I gave him a piggy back it put my neck out for 2 weeks! Do you want to know how I got him to agree to put his helmet on and come home? I threatened to throw his Star Wars lego in the bin. I can be a Very Mean Mother sometimes.
I don't blog about the fact that I'm a little bit bored of being at home alone all day but that I have no idea what I want to do instead. So I go to the gym, or for a run, every morning just for something to do*.
I don't blog about the fact that my children fight all day long, from getting up in the morning until going to bed. They fight constantly when they're together, yet they can't stand to be apart.
I don't blog about the agonising that went on over an unexpected text message from the brother that doesn't speak to us any more. Do I reply or not**? Why is he getting in touch all of a sudden? What does it all mean?
And I don't blog about the the other worries we have in our lives. Uncertainties over jobs and worries with elderly relatives, for instance... Who wants to hear all that anyway? I certainly don't like to dwell on it. And, in 'real life' I tend to be quite guarded - I don't give a lot away - why should my blog life be any different.
So I will continue to blog about frivolous things like covered lampshades (very professionally made *ahem* with zero sewing and a tube of UHU, by the way, tutorial here)...
and about a sea of daffodils I came across in the park while out running...
and line-dried bed linen...
and that is all.
* It helps that I actually like exercising and have friends at the gym :-)
** I replied so let's see what happens next
Just a few short hours before I hit the 'publish' button on that post I was having a 20 minute stand off, 50 yards from the school gates, with a 3 year old who wanted to ride his balance bike without wearing his helmet. It got to the point where I thought we'd never get home - I simply can't carry 2 lunch boxes, 2 book bags, a bike and and a 17kg child the 2/3 of a mile home whilst also supervising another child on a bike. #2 is getting so big I can hardly see over his head when I pick him up and last time I gave him a piggy back it put my neck out for 2 weeks! Do you want to know how I got him to agree to put his helmet on and come home? I threatened to throw his Star Wars lego in the bin. I can be a Very Mean Mother sometimes.
I don't blog about the fact that I'm a little bit bored of being at home alone all day but that I have no idea what I want to do instead. So I go to the gym, or for a run, every morning just for something to do*.
I don't blog about the fact that my children fight all day long, from getting up in the morning until going to bed. They fight constantly when they're together, yet they can't stand to be apart.
I don't blog about the agonising that went on over an unexpected text message from the brother that doesn't speak to us any more. Do I reply or not**? Why is he getting in touch all of a sudden? What does it all mean?
And I don't blog about the the other worries we have in our lives. Uncertainties over jobs and worries with elderly relatives, for instance... Who wants to hear all that anyway? I certainly don't like to dwell on it. And, in 'real life' I tend to be quite guarded - I don't give a lot away - why should my blog life be any different.
So I will continue to blog about frivolous things like covered lampshades (very professionally made *ahem* with zero sewing and a tube of UHU, by the way, tutorial here)...
and about a sea of daffodils I came across in the park while out running...
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| rubbish camera phone photograph! |
and line-dried bed linen...
and that is all.
* It helps that I actually like exercising and have friends at the gym :-)
** I replied so let's see what happens next
There you go. Blog about the things that interest you, and the nice things you see and do. None of us has perfect lives.
ReplyDelete(Oh...and the family thing...Yes, lots of that going on ;-)
I think we're all the same Victoria, not everyone wants to share the 'rubbish' times and certainly not everyone wants to read about them either. However I don't think anyone is under any illusion that we all don't have them.
ReplyDeleteFor what it's worth I think you were wise to reply to the text, lego in the bin was an inspired idea and yay for Uhu!!
Hope today's good,
Vivienne x
I feel the same way...My posting may seem only fun and happy but my life is anything but. I dont feel like posting about my daughter that is a drug abuser and we dont know what will happen one day to the next is what I want to blog about. Someone once made a comment on my happy little life. I feel that my blog is a place to discuss things that make me happy and keep me sane in this crazy world.
ReplyDeleteI've often wondered about some bloggers 'real life' - can it really be all sunshine and lollypops? Probably not. I myself have things going on - daughter's getting divorced, 23 yr.old son still has no job, and so on. I believe our blogging life allows us to get away from it all. I hope you're having a good day today and everything works out with your brother. :)
ReplyDeleteWise words my friend. I always have an internal debate about blogging. Bothered by sharing 'versions' of my life opposed to not being comfortable to share full stop. It makes it hard to find a happy medium. Feeling like you are holding something back, maybe being slightly untrue to yourself if it's all about the 'pretties' or the 'look what I made[s]'. Glad you have decided to come down with one side. Better than debating it endlessly like me!
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I felt much the same when my children were young and ditto the blogging stuff. When we lose the will to do whatever, it's easy to think we have to go it alone. Today you let others know just how you felt and look at the responses you've had already! We're there with you!
ReplyDeleteI think a blog can be that 'me' time that we as mums struggle to get. It has only recently struck me that there is life beyond the blogs we read and it can get real mean and ugly.
ReplyDeleteI think though that you DO NOT sound like a mean mum and that your arguing kids are only small, my are teenagers and it never stops. I have an estranged sibling and there are days when I agonise over it, but it is my emails that get ignored, so really I need to accept that choice she has taken.
I think my work is too big a part of my life. I do not bring it home, but I go in early and use up most of my energy there.
Thank goodness for the gym and friends as you say.
But one thing I think is interesting. I do not discuss my blog with my friends very often and do not encourage them to read it. The world can see it, but it is very private to me!!
Hope that helps!!!
Another angsting blogger...x
You are right to come out and say it, I think it's OK for a blog to be a "happy place", mine certainly is. I think anybody with an iota of common sense knows that nobody's life is flawless.
ReplyDeleteIt's like when I take a picture of something that I have made. I sweep the surrounding breadcrumbs, lego, felt pens without lids, bills, whatever really, out of the way and focus on the good. That is what my whole blog is like, I sweep away the scary bits and focus on the positive, and overall it does me good.
Whether or not anybody chooses to read it is slightly besides the point for me, though I'm glad if it brings people a bit of pleasure or maybe an idea or two.
And by the way, you are not the only person who is just a bit bored at home and can't really think what to do instead. I wonder how many intelligent, well educated women feel like that. I know at least 10.
I think we all do it, and why shouldn't the crappy stuff take a back seat if we want it to in our blogs - if my nearly 13 year old continues to be a hormonal nightmare she will be living in the shed, my 2 year old can make me weep with frustration and the 8 year old is practising swearing,my MIL isn't speaking to us and some days the only adult I speak to all day is on the till in the co-op - but I prefer to focus on the other stuff on my blog too. Pass the wine!!x
ReplyDeleteI know the feeling. We use the saying in our house that "there's always one" and that's true for so many things. We all have one of them brother/mother/aunt etc that turn for no reason and just when you think your getting over the hurt they get back in touch. If we had all the answers imagine the book we could publish. Chin up, try not to let things get you down. No one is perfect so don't put the pressure of trying to be on yourself. Love the lampshade, thank heavens for glue(and staple guns) :)
ReplyDeleteFor me blogging is about making ME focus on positive things in my life as I have a tendency to get swamped by the mundane and stressful aspects of life. I am normally a very forth coming sort of person and I find it quite a moral dilemma not sharing all the down things as well. It feels like a priviledge to be 'let in' sometimes to our blogging friends inner world. Lily. xxx
ReplyDeleteYes, that just about sums it up for me too, Lily.
DeleteContinue doing what you do.... it's just fine to me...
ReplyDeleteBy the way, I love your lampshades...
Hug from a stay-home never borred mom
Anna
Just read your post and am feeling confused..... but first, your little ones will prob grow up to be great pals, I know boys did and one of them was a terror (and not in a 'cheeky' way). They are now in their early 20s and spend a lot of time together and include their little (teenage girl!!!!) sis. With the teenagers, least said, soonest mended, and don't sweat the small stuff, (cliches I know, sorry), my daughter has just come through some really nasty stuff (self-harming etc) and is now out the other side and we get on well, and even manage to talk about the past behaviour even though it was only two years ago.
ReplyDeleteAs to my confusion, I have just started blogging after agonising about it, I have depression that comes and goes and decided, like other commenters I needed a private place that didn't involve friends and family that I could freely 'talk' about, and now feel that I would be 'inflicting' my true feelings by being honest, now I don't know what to do.......
Susan love, do carry on blogging, those who want to read, will, and those that don't, won't!
DeleteIt's this holding everything in that gets us all into a wobbly state in the first place.
As long as we are writing responsibly with respect for the privacy of others I think it can be very cathartic.
xxx
That's what blogs are there for, to express ourselves.
DeleteYou can always make your blog private, and by invitation only. Or, have two blogs! (you can always delete one, or all, whenever you want.)
Oh, Susan, I'm sorry to have confused you. Of course you should carry on blogging and write about whatever you feel like writing about. When I say 'who wants to read that anyway' I guess I am thinking about the blogging community that I am a part of... the people that tend to comment on my blog, if that makes sense.
DeleteYou will not be 'inflicting' your feelings on anyone as people are free to read or not and many people, I'm sure, will like to read about your experiences. Depression is something that is not talked about enough and I'm sure that if you write honestly about your feelings you will not only help yourself but probably many other people too.
Loved this post - totally normal, totally human. Fab! xxx
ReplyDeletethis entry was just a perfect read, say it how it is. Yes I totally agree most peoples blogs leave me feeling like my life is just so ordinary! Keep up the good work, my son turns 20 this summer and he was a little bugger when he was at junior school and I was forever shouting at him, yet he turned out with manners, someone I like to be around and has just landed himself a new job. Amanda x
ReplyDeleteoh and I love the lampshade x
ReplyDeleteAmen to that!! I'm never sure how much to 'give away' on my blog. Some really awful things have happened to my family over the past few months; I've felt like I needed to mention them, but I haven't gone into too much detail. Part of me worries I've said too much, and part of me wishes I could just be completely open, and reveal all. But I also worry that the last few posts have been really depressing, so I'm trying to get back to 'the happy place'!
ReplyDeleteI think it's up to us as blog readers to remember that no one's life is perfect, and that those that appear to be have just chosen not to dwell on the negative stuff, which is not a bad thing!
You aren't alone! My blog is for sharing my crafts only, perhaps with other things, too, but rarely about my personal life, which is extremely dull and boring, to say the least. ;)
ReplyDeleteI think most of the comments above pretty much sum my thoughts up...my oldest boy is on a school camp away for a couple of days at the moment, when he gets back we begin a couple of birthday celebrations for his ninth birthday, only problem is that unbeknown to him, his middle brother, who he loves to fight with, has come down with chicken pox and everyone is cancelling coming around...typical....I can only imagine the forthcoming arguments we are going to have......stressful child rearing, family conflicts, money problems are reality which we maybe don't constantly vent about, but sometimes when we do it can be a comfort to know we are not the only ones, I'm sure I could maybe beat you on the 'very mean mother front' I am constantly being told 'it's not fair' and 'so and so has got one, why haven't i'....
ReplyDeleteLove the bits you share about, but know that life is sometimes sunshine and showers.
Hi,
ReplyDeleteI'm having a crappy week too!
Let off a bit of steam on my recent blog post....but just a bit....xthat by100 and is my life most of the time.....
I long for some simple easy time...but it never really comes my way....but I'm hopeful and that's what keeps me going day in day out.....
I have empathy with the family things.....so hard to know what to do...and so hard when your tired and worn out and having to be helpful and smiley with older family members....and for the most part I do happily want to help.....but sometimes I do feel disgruntled......and sometimes I feel mean and selfish....it's hard....
Melxxx
Oh my, are we sharing a life??!! LOL Really, I am only laughing because your post literally is inside my head. I am a very guarded person as well, after having some (what I thought) were great friendships fall apart :( I have an older child who NEVER listens, dillies and dallies and takes For.Ev.Er. to get to do anything done and a baby with such severe anxiety that I can barely have a shower, let alone actually get out of the house to do anything. And being a stay-at-home parent for over a year now is starting to drive me MAD!!
ReplyDeleteI absolutely understand where you are coming from. I never blog when I am having "down" times. I appreciate your transparency on this post. I'm going to have to try this "not dwelling" thing you speak of....
You are so right! I have stopped blogging when my son was born. Most of the blogs I followed were all crafting super-mums, that seem to be able to make time for everything and here I was, first time mum, not having a clue. Who wants to hear about my sleepless nights or the mess in the flat or how I constantly beat myself up for being useless because everyone else seems to manage to craft, keep a perfectly tidy house and be the perfect mum and take perfect photos of all of it...
ReplyDeleteArgh...Sorry about the moan. I think your post inspired me to perhaps start blogging again. And just write the truth, instead of trying to 'compete' with everyone else. Thank you
Kristina
It is so funny how similar our lives are when we read blogs, i have many of the same issues as you. Even a brother who got in touch after 28 years ...out of the blue. I am probably not as forgiving as you and have not replied yet.
ReplyDeleteI think we can all relate to this. Even the 'happiest' of blogs are dealing with hard stuff of some sort behind the scenes. I too get comments and emails with people saying my life must be fab. Errrr No! I make a point of letting them know! Most of us see our blogs as a little escape from the mundane and the rubbish that is going on in our 'real lives'. I see it that I have to deal with it in real life, why on earth would I want to relive it again on my blog? I show the nice stuff to remind myself that good stuff does actually happen! I do occasionally blog about feeling rubbish, but essentially, like you, I'm a private person. I do like to remind people though on the odd occasion, that I have days where my kids drive me to almost insanity, my husband irritates the hell out of me, other family members annoy me, my house looks like a tip, the dinner gets thrown in the bin and I really want to throw plates and feel less of a skivvy! I'm only human! We all are! It's just life!
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So interesting Victoria - how funny that my comment made you think!
ReplyDeleteI sometimes (ok, often) worry that by blogging the happy bits of my life I present a kind of false 'look at me with my perfect life and all the things I've made this week'! rather than the nitty gritty. It is a consious decision - and, while I know I shouldn't feel the need to justify it, I do! It's one side of my life - the side I don't mind my kids friend's parents knowing, random rellies that would happliy use something personal in a negative way. I'm also conscious that I want my children to read my blog as a kind of diary in the future - which is also in my mind when i go to moan (about them!!!)
I read all kinds of blogs - from the light and fluffy (in fact some I just look at the pictures!) to the deep and meaningful (I force myself to read Roos every day - even though sharing her journey with cancer brings back nightmares - it also grounds me) and one of the things I like most about blogging is the sheer variety.
Susan - off to message you...and Victoria, I reckon we stay as we are. I love your blog as it is.
Anyone liking the fluffy kind...head over to mine!!!!
fee x
Bravo brave lady! There are plenty of other mom's like me whom I'm sure are grateful somebody gave us stay-at-home moms a voice!
ReplyDeletehi there, just stumbled across your lovely blog! Had to comment on this post as I understand completely where you are coming from. Blogging is (at least for me) escapism, a chance to put aside all the crappy day to day toils and tribulations and concentrate even for just a few hours on nice, happy stuff that makes me, well happy! too much stress in the world, so a wee bit o' blogging is just the tonic (and if a bit of gin should fall into said tonic - all the better!)
ReplyDeleteBH x
Your post struck such a cord with me too. After having No.3 I haven't gone back to work, and although I love them all to bits I do feel like I'm going stir crazy. This is why I have always got a make on the go to keep my brain engaged!!
ReplyDeleteI've only been blogging 6 months,but it's my place to share my addiction to wool and fabric. My friends think I'm mad making stuff 'you can just go and buy" but the blogging community get it and I think some get me! I made the decision that my blog would be a nice place, and the madness can carry on behind me and it will still be there after I've posted!!!
I understand totally! I try to keep my blog all "Happy Happy Joy Joy". It is kind of an escape for me. I can look at my blog and it makes me happy. When in reality my life is a rollercoaster of ups and downs (mostly sharp downs). And what is it with siblings fighting all the time? My two are driving me nuts with the constant bickering!!!
ReplyDeleteWe all do the happy blogging bit don't we, but I see my blog as my happy place. There is and has been chaos in my life at times but my blog and the blogs I visit are my have.
ReplyDeleteAlthough I am thousands of miles away and an older blogger I love to make, craft and find treasures, and know one I know does or get's it. So I blog. The only difference between working and working at home is that at home you can go to the loo when you want and stop and have a cuppa when needed, the stress and pressures are different but the same in each option.
Hello Victoria
ReplyDeleteWowee, I'm totally with you in this post. I like to blog about the happier side of my life, I think we hope that our happy day/time may inspire others enjoy the brighter side too. Things fall apart in all our lives and please don't beat yourself up about being Mum, sometimes you have to do what you have to do :0)Believe me I've been there! I love your blog and find it refreshing and inspiring, stay as lovely as you are xox
ps. Loving all the cake in your previous post and I got a lovely feathered round cushion from Dunelm Mill last year if that helps xox
I am so pleased that you answered the text. My brother and I had a difficult relationship with years of him not talking to me but we were friends before he died, thank goodness, he was many years older than I.
ReplyDeleteLovely to find your blog, thank you for visiting mine! Before I began my own blog I often read other people's and was amazed how uplifting and inspiring a blog could be! That was the kind of blog I aspired to when I began my own crafts blog and I do try to keep it a happy place, because there are lots of happy moments in a day as well as the not so good bits. It's all about where you choose to focus really...on the positive or on the negative.
ReplyDeleteI look forward to reading more of your blog...and I love your blog title!
Helen x
Oh my god. I feel so bad for writing that comment now.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry. I didnt mean to trigger all that. I didnt mean it to be so dismissive. I felt quite envious of your week while I'm slogging my guts out at work.
Everyone has lots of other stuff to deal with and sometimes it's good to be reminded that some of these 'perfect' bloggers with their beautiful children, immaculate houses, endless time to craft and eternal sunshine are actually only normal! Sometimes it can make you feel very inadequate cant it?? It's like facebook and it's endless stream of photos of perfect holidays, perfect weddings, perfect families, perfect children and perfect social lives. It can be quite depressing to the 'normal' people.
I love your blog. Don't change it. xxxx
This seems to be a very common theme on blogs just now. I feel the same way but have come to the conclusion that I blog about the bits that I want to remember in years to come. Hopefully I will forget all the fighting, cheek and nonsense, the feeling of being permanently unsettled, the boredom etc. Having wee ones is only for a short time (although with 5 it will have been 28 years from no1 being born to no5 leaving - think I need a lie down after that statistic!), so enjoy your chance to be creative and to communicate it to/with others.
ReplyDeleteSandra x
I love that your blog post was very REAL! I blog about some good things and some difficult but not the really, really bad things. I think my blog is pretty real and I want to keep it that way, and I like reading others that are real, too. I think we all have good and bad moments in our days, and the realities of being a Mother, well I could go on and on about that. I think your blog is just lovely and I hope you continue to tell us all the lovely things and the occasional bad day, because we all have them and we are your friends so hopefully we can help you through it all.
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Awesome post! Amen, sister! I'm kinda private in person - yet if I'm close to you, I'll talk your ear off! (And listen too.) The internet is sooooooo public...you just never know who will see what - and then it returns to bite you in the arse! So, I'm guarded. Aging parents, aging selves, children woes, economic woes, searches for joy in our lives...it's what unites us all - even if we don't feel comfortable putting it all on public display for all to read. This blog world is often a nice diversion from reality, eh? Thanks for sharing on such a raw level. This reader loved it! Hugs, Annette
ReplyDeleteI know precisely what you mean. I do a bit of whining and whinging on my blog sometimes and after I hit the publish button I often sit there and think "does anyone really want to read about my problems" but then I think, well that is really only a very minute part of an, at times, larger problem and its my blog so you get the good, the bad, and the ugly sometimes. I used to think I would only post about the happy, rosy side of life, but lets face it, some days you need to dig very deep to find the happy side. I am quite guarded in my blogging but sometimes it just has to come out.
ReplyDeleteI loved this post, and I think we have all been in so many similar positions. Honesty can be a good thing in blogland, I think we all should do it more. We are all supportive of one another so why not reach out occasionally. So many of us sit here nodding and actually feel better that there are others in the exact same position, I honestly think it helps.
Geez I hope this makes sense lol. Sorry for the ramble!
I love your blog & you should be really proud of it no matter what you post. I was so happy when I discovered all these beautiful sewing & knitting blogs that I started my own. It's not very complicated or informative but my daughter is autistic & my blog is my spot. It seems private & I haven't told anyone. I don't think it's going to change the world but it makes me feel important :)
ReplyDeleteAmazing as thought provoking blog post. I use my blog as expressing who I am I try and be positive but wud say I don't hide the negative but avoid blogging about certain aspects of my life. Avoiding my daughters bad behaviour, my family issues, and the mundane I do express if something is getting me down but like to keep my blog as a place to share my family memories and record all the creative stuff my daughter and I do. Blogging is our little corner to express ourselves as we want to and I have to say I love reading your blog and reading about your adventures and projects. Kim sure we all know that nobody's life is a perfect happy place. Your boys love each other and always will. Your sibling has probably realised how much they miss you. When you find something you like to do embrace it. Xx
ReplyDeleteI don't think that any of us should feel guilty about our blogs and how we run them. They are our 'thoughtful spaces'. Others drop by to read about what we are creating, and what we have to say, but we are all different, and we present what we have to say in different ways.
ReplyDeleteI do mention my family in passing on my blog, but I rarely pass on the miserable stuff, like my twenty year old Son suffering from depression. However, if I'm not well, I'll say that I'm not well, because it affects my crafting, and that's what my blog is about. It's all relative for me, I guess.
I sympatise with the Brother situation, as I have one of those too. They must be quite common.
I love your blog, and if you wrote about things that got you down as well as things that made you happy, I would still visit. Judith xx
hear hear !! I blog all the nice stuff too, i want to get away from my worries for a while , Im going through a family situaition at the moment , and i need me time to help me through it too, so im all for happy blogs !!! and i need them xxx p.s love yoursxx
ReplyDeleteI'm a new reader of your blog and all I have to say is thanks for being so honest!!!!
ReplyDeleteBlogging is our "getaway." :)
ReplyDeleteWhen I started my blog I had every intention of making it a happy place for all the fun stuff in my life that I wanted to share and chat about. Heck, I never even thought anyone would care to read any of my posts. I was so new to this place. Then shortly after my husband was diagnosed with an incurable cancer and his world fell apart and so did mine. My blogs of choice were the happy, care free ones where everything is "perfect" and the pictures were of crochet, knitting, quilting, crafts, recipes, gardening....but, I happened upon these beautiful people who were walking in my husband's shoes, and I could relate. They seemed to love the same things I did, but there was one mutual love, and it was the love of life. There is nothing worse than hiding feelings and pretending life is all roses, but I do understand the need for privacy and choice. How you choose to blog is a personal choice. It can be an escape where you leave your troubles behind. I am old enough and smart enough to realize just because someone paints a pretty picture of their life and their beautiful home doesn't mean they don't have troubles and there isn't dust hidden somewhere or a cobweb hanging from a nick knack on a shelf. Not many bloggers openly admit to problems or the dust bunnies under the bed. It is like when a husband and wife say they have never had an argument, excuse me, I would have to doubt that, and say, "what the heck is wrong with your marriage" if you are individuals you will have disagreements. And ya know, if you have children, then you definitely have good and bad days. My daughters use to fight all the time, and still do occasionally, but they couldn't live without each other either. It is a sibling thing. I take a picture and I have to make sure the stack of clutter isn't spotted in the back ground, after all, they have a show about those people who are hoarders....I haven't been asked to be on the show yet, lol....all joking aside, just blog about what makes you comfortable. You are the one who invites people into your corner of the world, sometimes ya just don't feel like opening the door all the way.
ReplyDelete(((HUGS))) Susanne :)
Everybody have ups and downs. I also had many bad days and I've been publishing somethings I've done. I think that's good to share bad moments too. I've been having health problems and now with my father sick (cancer) I will have to get a flight to Brazil and be standing because I can't sit for long... but why to blog about it? You know, I think I should! I don't have kids yet but everybody knows how hard it can be. You are not a bad mother for sure, you just can't make miracles!
ReplyDeleteI am a fairly newbie to your blog but so enjoy reading it. I think it would be unrealistic for one to read a blog and think that nothing bad ever happens in the bloggers life. After all bloggers are human, aren't they? :) Blogs can be a bit of escapism for both the reader and the blogger. Anyway, just wanted to say, thanks for brighten my days. x
ReplyDeleteI am a new reader of your blog and new to blogging too and have hit on this discussion about perfect blog life Vs real life and feel really relieved at the answers posted here. I too want to share the nicer aspects of my life through my crafting interests and will try to only publish uplifting things, but with a teeny tiny bit of life thrown in. I agree with all the comments above, blogging is escapism for both the author and the readers, we have a choice to read or not read, social networking sites and other forms of electronic communication can sometimes make people feel that everybody has a blessed life, when actually they don't, nobody knows what is around the next corner, motherhood is damn hard (a fact you don't know until you are one) and I would just like to add my own comment - there are lots of good bloggers out there who spend lots of their own time to share with others and provide free patterns, tutorials and advice and I think they should be applauded. Thank you for taking the time to share with others. I love your blog and will keep following. Hope all works out with tour brother too. Ps. I too am having a really rough time at the moment!
ReplyDeleteIt's the same for all of us. For some reason my own blog seems like an outlet from all the crap that I have to deal with every day. I choose to share only (or mostly only) the good stuff! So that I can also come back after a few months, take a look at what I wrote and remember the feeling I had when I made a hat, or went on a trip, or baked some cupcakes. I mean, we usually tend to keep the bad things in mind and forget about the good ones more easily. Maybe it has to do with the fact that the bad ones hurt and wounds are hard to heal, maybe it's something else. In any case, I totally agree, we tend to share the good things more than the bad ones. Anyway, I hope everything works out!
ReplyDeleteI just discovered your blog today and this post really made me smile. Most of the incidents you talk about seem like a page out of my life.:)I always thought that bloggers were happy people with neat houses, cute 'obedient' kids who smiled for the pics, loving husbands and heaps of colorful yarn. And visiting them would cheer me up. Now that I started my blog a month back I realised that deciding what you actually want to publish about your life puts you in a dilemma. Does one act goody goody all the time or does one show the not so bright aspects of our life to our friends/readers. And do other people really want to read that? Loved your post and I like your blog too.
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